Singlehood is not a broken state that requires fixing. This is the core message of our guest, Shani Silver, who deleted her dating apps in 2019 and has been infinitely happier ever since. Shani reminds us that dating apps are a for-profit industry that stand to benefit from keeping you single rather than helping you find love, and they often deplete your self worth and mental health. Author of the fantastic book A Single Revolution: Don't Look for a Match. Light One. and host of A Single Serving Podcast, Shani firmly believes that you can enjoy your life as a single human while still hoping for a partnership. But this episode is not just for the singles out there! Shani helps people in couples reframe how they view their single friends and family members, and as a result of reading her book, we have personally stopped asking questions like "How's dating life?" or "Can I please fix you up with someone?" Shani offers zero apologies for living her life exactly as she wants to, and we offer zero apologies for Ellie's graphic colonoscopy story and Julia's description of her nuclear meltdown. Love us as we are or don't love us at all, but do listen to the episode and share it with your people.
Topics and timestamps
15:05 - Shani tells us the wildest thing a doctor ever said to her
15:05 - Shani tells us the wildest thing a doctor ever said to her.
17:49 - Dating apps are a for-profit industry. Here's why you should delete them.
22:30 - How to maintain your self-worth and dignity in a society that shames singles.
28:44 - How to reframe your mindset about the hell-scape that is dating.
34:00 - Dispelling the notion that your life isn't real until you have a partner.
47:45 - A person can embrace their single-hood while hoping for a partner.
Handles and sites
Shani's show: A Single Serving Podcast
Buy Shani's book: A Single Revolution: Don't look for a match. Light one.
List of Resources Mentioned
Tubal Ligation No Better Than IUD at Preventing Pregnancy
The Mob Should Run Planned Parenthood
Why Many Single Women Without Children Are So Happy
The Other 50% Podcast
Erin's Faces Affiliate Link